Networking Tips for Introverts (Developers)
Despite their inherent inclinations, introverted developers are no less antisocial or less capable than their extroverted counterparts. In fact, some of the biggest names in tech, including Mark Zuckerberg, Bill Gates, or Guy Kawasaki, are self-proclaimed introverts.
However, networking can be very intimidating for introverts, so it requires different techniques to simplify the process (I dare say it can be fun).
In this article, you'll find some helpful tips on how to build your roll of professional contacts, even if you're not the biggest networker right now.
Change your attitude
With the wrong mindset, networking can feel one-sided and disingenuous, which can make the idea even more daunting for introverts. For this reason, it is essential to view networking as an opportunity where mutually beneficial relationships can develop. Even if you're a newbie or have just switched industries, it's important to remember that you have something to offer. When you network, you plant a lot of seeds and you never know which ones will bloom. The subject matter experts you connect with today may soon be looking for your help.
Plan and have an agenda
Before you go to a networking event, I recommend preparing an elevator pitch. What are you doing right now? What have you done in the past? What do you want for your future? Once you've prepared and practiced your pitch, it's easier to adapt the content to the environment you're in. Ask yourself the question of your personal goals. Are you looking for a new job? Want to meet a potential mentor, or meet up with other developers to share best practices? When you know why you should attend the networking event, you can better focus on making some quality connections.
Business card first, follow-up call later
If you're having trouble making deeper connections at a networking event, you can also use the opportunity to glean basic contact information. After the event is over, you can set up an appointment for further conversations at your leisure. One technique is to talk to someone you want to connect with and just say something like, "I'm sorry to have to go, but I noticed that you're using JavaScript, just like me. I would like to exchange ideas more intensively, could I have your business card, please?" The methodology is quick, painless and gives you the opportunity to get to know each other in a more comfortable setting, like over lunch.
Don't limit your networking to just "networking" events
Exchanging business cards with strangers isn't the only way to build quality friendships. Also ask friends if they can introduce you. Contact someone you are interested in from a social network and arrange a 20-minute call. Attend non-networking events like hackathons, where there's still a good chance to meet like-minded developers and techs in your industry. However, some of the best opportunities to network are still social occasions like BBQs and other events where people can get to know each other naturally and casually.
Distance yourself from people you don't like
At the end of the day, networking is about building real relationships. As with any relationship, don't try to force something that doesn't feel right. If you don't like the conversation or the conversation doesn't feel good, find someone you want to connect with.
Even if networking feels awkward at first, keep getting involved. You will be rewarded by gaining access to hidden job opportunities and career opportunities. You can also make real acquaintances that will last for years.
